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EDITOR'S NOTE: In my travels in the BDSM world
both as a leader and participant, I've discovered that most
people don't realize the incredible amount of work it takes to
run a BDSM group. From the guest perspective it's just a party
or munch now and again to go to. But behind the scenes there are
many people who work very hard to make this happen. I asked Ed,
Leader of White Mountains Different Strokes to write a monthly
column for SCENEsubmissions that would help our readers
understand what goes on behind the scenes.
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During the days of the Continental Congress,
in answer to the question "what is the best form of
government", Ben Franklin is supposed to have responded,
"a monarch - if it's a good one". I think that
illustrates the issue of governance of a BDSM group. If one has
a good leader with the trust of others (and the time to devote
to this subject) then that person can act as, if not a monarch,
then a CEO/Chairman, etc. Yet reality has a nasty habit of
intruding.
Many groups are started by one person, or a
couple, or perhaps a small group of people who either break-off
from a larger group or are staking out new territory. I have
often said that things that occur in the BDSM world almost
always have a vanilla world parallel - in group management, this
isn't as different from the business world as you might think.
The author of many business books, Tom Peters,
has used the expression "a maniac with a mission" to
describe how many start-up companies begin. In the early days of
a group, I think it is helpful to have someone to say, "OK,
the bus leaves in 5 minutes - which option do we choose"?
You will often read a newspaper article where the author
criticizes a product or business model as "something that
looks like it was designed by a committee" - which would
not be used to describe, say, the work of Thomas Edison or Marie
Curie. Sometimes, a group stays in this model due to a lack of
volunteers willing to help. One recalls the little red hen
asking, "Now, who will help me bake the bread"?
"Not I" said the cow. "Not I" said. And so
on. Or, as in the case of many well-known CEO's, it may stay in
this mode due to a reluctance to let go of power as much as
possible. In the power exchange society we exist in - that's not
surprising.
Just as in the business world, though, I
believe that a group that is not: a) a closed society, and b)
wishes to grow - needs to expand beyond the sole proprietor
model of governance if it hopes not only to survive but also
endure. If you have seen the list of New England regional
munches that Stephen of the Boston Dungeon Society has published
over the years, the words "Cancelled", "Suspended
Until Further Notice" and similar words have been seen next
to a munch listing. Often, it indicates a group that broke down
more often due to the "Grand Poobah" leaving (as a
result of a personal dispute, divorce, relocation, etc.) and the
lack of someone else willing to step in - rather than a general
disagreement throughout the membership. I often wonder if, had a
power-sharing arrangement been in place beforehand, whether that
group's fate may have turned out differently.
When a small private business decides to
switch from a sole proprietorship (or partnership) to a
privately held corporation, many people assume that the primary
reason is to avoid unlimited liability. However, purchasing
insurance can solve that problem - it's actually the issues of
transferability/survivability that are the driving force. To
transfer power in the first two models, one needs to dissolve,
say, the partnership and start over again. By contrast,
corporate shares can simply be sold or passed on to heirs.
Now, few groups (in our world) have that sort
of formality and documentation - I use the example above to
illustrate that a group-style of management can survive a change
of leadership much better. The recent changes in Rose &
Thorn are a good example. The group beginning to form in Rutland
is unusual in that they are starting out as a collective type of
organization, and welcome the participation of others.
In the end, if you have a group that meets the
needs of its members - it is assured of a future. How that
group's management is organized does go a long way towards
ensuring that those needs will be met.